3048622495_4e75e54449A few years ago, while celebrating an unnamed mid-20’s birthday, I began to think about what I can do each year on my birthday to really make an impact on the next year of my life.

I wanted to give myself a stamp of some sort – a crest to live by – for that following year.  I read a few blogs, looked through some good books I had marked in, sorted through magazines, and finally decided that one of the most powerful things I could attach a year of my life to – was words. Simple words, but SO powerful. Words.

And thus it began. Each year since then, I’ve gone through a process of brainstorming, reading, writing, and then narrowing down to 1 or 2 words that I want to live my life around for the following year.  And honestly, it’s been one of the most incredible things I’ve done for myself.

Think about it… there is nothing working against you. (And no one working against you either… Don’t share your word or words until after your next birthday). Ok, let’s just pretend that on your 32th birthday you chose the word “clarity.”  You memorize a personal definition of what clarity means, you write the word down in several visible key places, and on your birthday you say a prayer (to whoever you chose) for clarity throughout your 33rd year of life.

Then, as the year progresses, and you make tough decision, or face challenges head on, or experience great moments, you can always come back to that word. Clarity.

Here’s how it works.

YOU:  “I am so torn on which decision to make. I don’t know how I am going to decide what to do.”  You need clarity.  You know how good it feels to make a decision with it, and do what you know is right.  Get yourself there. It is in your hands. Gain clarity about your options, and the affects of both. Then, make your decision.

Or.

YOU:  “That was the most amazing weekend of my life! I can’t imagine someone more perfect for me.”  Coming back to your word, clarity, will keep you grounded and focused, even in times of complete happiness.

See? Not that hard. And im telling you, the amount you learn about yourself when coming back to one word throughout an entire year of growth is nothing short of enlightening.  And the best part – there is no right word, or wrong word.  In fact, each year, you begin thinking of next year’s word a little earlier.

Hence this blog. A 2-parter.

I am less than a month away from my 29th birthday, and embarking on my 30th year of life.  It’s time I start thinking of what next year’s word will be, but after my birthday has passed, id like to share with you my words of the past 4 years, including the one I am living right now and how important they’ve become.  I also ask that you suggest words that inspire you, encourage you, or keep you true to yourself, because although I’ve already started thinking about options for next year, it certainly doesn’t hurt to get some outside perspective.

So, what do you say? I know it’s a little bit of a personal stretch for our blogs, but it’s character defining in my opinion, and has set me up for (almost) 4 years of continuous growth & self realization in ways I can’t explain.

-Ape

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  • Emily0165
    me too! and so my partner has made a mish-mosh poster of spiritual words, pictures, phrases for our life together. yes, it's cute, i know. when these spiritual words, pictures and phrases are placed in your view to see on a daily basis, it's difficult to find yourself NOT trying to follow those paths.

    we have been talking about going on the cayamo cruise as it's been a dream for the last few years of mine to go, but we haven't been able to go because the timing hasn't been right. i played hookie from work today, jumped on the computer and found the lineup and dates have been released! but wait... it's during my birthday! it's a sign! let's just hope brandi carlile signs back on (and larkin poe too!)! and i can dream for missy higgins, matt morris and tristan prettyman. my fingers are crossed!

    p.s. i see some of your pictures are tibetan. if you like documentaries and haven't seen "unmistaken child" yet, i highly recommend you see it. it's amazing!
  • Gnoss
    I had a friend who had a special way to celebrate his birthdays and your posting reminded me of it for the first time in many years. He took the day off, rose early in the morning, surrendered his car keys, stayed at home, invited his friends to stop by at any time during the day or evening and he smoked a joint for every year he was old. He had to complete this task (without anyone else sharing his numbered joints) by midnight and he was not allowed to leave long roaches (as were judged for appropriate shortness by consensus of his visiting friends). Those of us who stopped by enjoyed beers he provided and blaring music on a great stereo system - Lynyrd Skynyrd, Marshall Tucker and The Allman Bros. as I specifically recall. He did this from age19 to almost 30 and I witnessed about five of these birthday rituals. Poor guy became a bundle of giggles even before noon and as the day stretched on he needed supervision to maintain focus and to stop leaving long roaches which would be cheating. In the final hour or two before midnight there were shouts of encouragement in a countdown from all his assembled friends as he struggled to maintain a puffing schedule which would ensure completion of the task. Word spread of this feat of endurance and silliness and I knew other guys and gals who tried and failed to establish their own tradition of doing this. This was in the time period from 1969 to the late 70's, so understand those were different times - and his 25 or 30 joints cost only about $15 back then. He is 61 now I think, and remarkably he has retained his faculties- short term and long term memory included. However I am certain he would not choose to remember or tell this story of his old birthday ritual, nor would he or I recommend it for any benefit other than establishing a bit of fame among a small circle of friends - if they are all crazy too.
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