Personal Space Violation #137

October 14, 2009
posted by Barbara | View Comments

How many times have you gone to a concert and been appalled at the behavior of the people around you? I realize that there are many different kinds of music, and with those differences come different behaviors, but I think a general rule at standing-room-only concerts is not to act like you own the place. Unless you, in fact, own the place.

I came up with the idea for this blog when I asked Lauren what I should write about, and she said, “Write about the way people act at standing room only concerts!” with a hint of anger, and a whole lotta irritation. She want to see Brandi Carlile this weekend, and I have a feeling her experience is different than the one I’m going to tell you about, but the message is the same- respect people’s personal space, m’kay?

About 6 years ago, I went to see Ministry. It was a general admission show, and we showed up hours early to get good spots. And we did- right on the barricade in front of the stage! It was so loud, I couldn’t even see for the next week!  However, my concert experience was almost ruined by that guy who thinks it’s really cool to take his shirt off and be a jack*ss.  Usually, it takes until halfway through the show for the drugs to kick in, but he was sweating and cussing before the band even came on. My boyfriend nudged me, and said, “I bet the sweaty guy with no shirt on is going to get kicked out.”

I’m not a tiny girl, but I wouldn’t exactly call myself big. Six years ago, I think I was “twiggy.” Well, this 250 lb. gentleman, sweating, with no shirt on, decided he was going to turn my spot into a mosh pit, and jammed me up against the barricade. I was having trouble breathing, and I think I broke a rib. (I didn’t have health insurance, so I didn’t bother finding out.) Next thing you know, ol’ Sweaty McSweatypants was being escorted out of the venue, struggling the whole way.

Boys & girls, let’s take a moment to reflect on what we’ve learned. No matter if you are at a folk show, a metal show, a jazz show, or anything else, please, for the love of all that is good, DON’T TAKE YOUR SHIRT OFF AND ACT LIKE A JERK. No one likes it when you do that.

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  • Jenny
    Heehee...I'm soooo happy I'm not the only one this has happened to! Dallas, July 1, hottest freakin' day of the summer, Kid Rock, front row-center. During LS performance, something started stinkin' real bad....then during intermission, HUGE dude next to me went to go get a beer or whatever...everyone started lookin' around....then started laughing...we all were so relieved that it was him...not us that was stinking!! Needless to say he did come back for KR...Boohoo for me cause he was standing right next to me again...when KR put his hand out to everyone I had to take a very quick backstep (and I mean very quick!) to prevent myself from being under this dudes armpit!(ughh) And I did actually get a "what's up" look from KR for not taking his handshake! Sometimes ya gotta laugh...and please, everyone put the word out...if ya gonna raise your arms to rock...put some "stop stink" on before you go!
  • Melanie
    I had a guy at Needtobreathe concert two weeks ago at a sold out show litterally park his behing against my waist the entire night, and lean against the stage so no one could see around him. I love the music, but it only takes one person to ruin the show. I can also add the girls who litterally threw me away from the stage (where I had been since the doors opened at Hotel Carolina) and into Iris's wheelchair. Not cool.
  • Diana
    Arg. I've had a great concert experience almost wrecked by annoying people. Most of the time if it gets too bad I just move myself to the back where it is much more tolerable, otherwise yeah I'm close but having a terrible time.

    P.S. This is why I love The Rock Boat and I'm sure all Sixthman cruises… a boat full of people who love live music and respect the artists and fellow passengers.
  • Good point. I also have issues with those people that try to push their way to the front right as the main performer comes out. Or silly girls that bring their HUGE purse that keeps banging into everyone around them.

    But on the flip side, I've also met some pretty cool people. I figure if you are going to stand that close to each other for that long, might as well make the most of it.

    Other things that perplex me at concerts:
    1. Why does everyone cheer when the artist sings/says the F word. It's not like we do this outside of a concert setting.
    2. Why do people call their friends during their favorite song and hold up the phone? The person on the other end can actually hear it and way to rub it in man.
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